Mawwiage

Do married couples ever stay happy? Can you be with someone for over 25 years and still be in love with them?

I don't even think I know of one married couple in my circle of friends, family friends or relatives who still show true love for each other. I feel like such a naive idealist because I want to still be in love with my husband when I turn 65. I want the whole Noah and Allie thing where we reminisce about our past days. I want the whole dancing by the fire with our osteoarthritic joints. I want the grandchildren at my feet and the children who look at us, their parents, and marvel at how enraptured we still are with each other.

That doesn't happen in real life. It all turns to shit at some point and married couples die as distant from each other as strangers. Or, worse, they die resenting each other and wishing they never met.

Taylor Swift should have listened to her younger self in "Mine." The music video only shows them up to the early years of their children's lives. We know that after that they start hating each other. He doesn't chase her out in the night at 2.30am after they fight. He locks the door on her.

When I look at the married relationships of all the numerous blogs I read, they seem so in love. Their online biographies talk about their "best friend" and how lucky they are. But all married couples start that way. They start in love and happy. As in love as we young ones are. Where do we go in 20 years?

J