The Importance of Being Present

I was talking about this with mah gurlz the other day. Presence. I guess it could extend to all sorts of people but, specifically, we were talking about boys (as we usually are).

Presence is the sort of atmosphere or feeling someone exudes when you're with them. I think presence is usually more important that physical appearance. I guess you could call it "attraction" but I don't because, to me, attraction is mutual but presence can very much be one sided. Like when you walk into a room and go, "Dayum," and the other person doesn't even notice you. Attraction would be a mutual, "Dayum."

I've had two recent experiences with presence.

The first was a couple weeks ago when I went to karaoke with a bunch of randoms. There with this guy called Alex. Kim and I walked in and I admit to feeling a touch awkward. My friend who invited us, Bee, forgot to introduce us to all her friends so we were standing there for a few moments kind of awkwardly. I think Alex was the first one who said, "Hi, I'm Alex," and shook my hand.

He stood up and yeah, he was tall and impressive and had a friendly face, but more than that, it was just this thing he exuded that was all friendliness and confidence. Presence, people.

My second recent encounter with presence was today when I went for my second interview at Homecraft. I went in to find Nona (the nicest lady ever) who was supposed to interview me but she was nowhere to be seen. I asked this youngish guy (around my age) where Nona was. He only said about two words to me but he just exuded such a friendly, open personality. He was genuinely not a goodlooking lad. He was, at best, average but fuck, he was magnetic.

And so ends my rant on magnetism and attraction and presence. I hope you enjoyed it.

J